When Church Hurts So Bad
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3 NKJV
“The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear?” (Prov. 18:14). Church hurt can an unbearable wound in your spirit. And, you know what hurts so bad? When a person in the church made you feel so special yesterday, makes you feel like you’re a nobody today. Ouch! Human instinct is fight or flight—usually flight is chosen. In stead of running to God in prayer, most broken-hearted people run from the church. When church hurts so badly. It hurts to leave, but sometimes it hurts more stay.
Why does church hurt occur among brothers and sisters of like precious faith? Well, every Christian isn’t in the place spiritually as some others in the church. Some believers are fragile and need to be handled with care—some are “babes” and some are more spiritual” (1 Cor. 3:1-2). There is—oftentimes—an insensitivity towards some and a spirit of superiority displayed towards others. Both dispositions can cause hurt when unwholesome words are spoken or irresponsible acts perpetrated against another believer. The tongue can bring healing as a tree of life, or deceitful and vicious words can crush one’s spirit (See Prov. 15:4).
Many in the church inflict hurt on others in the name of the Lord, claiming to “speak the truth in love” but speaking the truth in love results in personal growth and love never fails (Eph. 4:15; 1 Cor. 13:8). The irony of the Church and Christianity is that: the Church, figuratively speaking, is supposed to be a spiritual hospital and its members should be vessels of love and instruments of healing. Is this why, perhaps, the famous civil and human rights activist, Mahatma Gandhi, was quoted saying, “I like your Christ, but I don’t like your Christians.” We can do better and love one another rather than hurting each other, showing the world that we are Christ’s disciples (John 13:34-35).
There numerous causes of church hurt when the hurt is too much to bear: church splits, heresy, being openly embarrassed and humiliated, neglect of pastoral care, financial greed, and malicious gossip. rejection, sexual sin of a church leader, selfish ambition, legalism (manipulation and control), and false personal prophesies, etc. These are just a few examples of church hurt when it hurts so badly. It hurts you to leave the church, but sometimes it hurts more stay. What can you do? Pray! (Jas. 5:13).